Our Children. Our Future.
And is a continual of
something positive and it understandably feels good to hear. But is a continual
of something negative and understadably feels bad to hear and when it comes to
our children, feeling good is the way to go. When kids feel good about
themselves and what they are doing, they do more of it, building their self
confidence, their judgements of whatever they may come across and their
harmonious connection with others. When everything they say, think or do is
lowly qualified in some way or other, their joy sours n their anger soars.
This is not to say
that children don't need and won't respond to their parents' expectations. They
do and will, regardless of whether those expectations are good or bad. When
those expectations are constantly and consistently bright and positive and are
taught, modelled and expressed, amazing things happen. "I see you made a
mistake and i know that you are intelligent enough to figure out what you did
wrong and make a better decision next time." Or, "You have been
spending hours on that project and I'd love to have you explain it to me."
Or, "We work hard for our money and I know you can help make out a way to
pay for what you want."
It is not enough just
to say we love our children. We live in a time where frustration has grown
ferocious and in line with the flux, we can no longer afford to limit love's
expression. If we want to tone down the sound of violence in our spawning
society, we're going to turn up the volume on noticing, giving laud, guiding
and participating in what is righteous and correct with our children.
There is a tribe
indigenous to Solomon Island and this specific clan don't chop trees with axes;
they simply group around a tree they want to reduce to timber and swear at it
in unison. The targeted tree, no matter how robust, would wither and die within
two days. Imagine what calling a child with degrading names would bring about
to the life that the kid has ahead. Denouncing our children would only kill
their their spirits and self-sustained inner pysche and it would scar them for
life although there are reversible factors called the resiliency and
well-adjustness of kids, given their plasticity. But no two child is the same n
the game of hereditary plays a major role here. Some kids are born
hypersensitive, easy mark, introverted and contained not to mention other
hurdles that require them to cross oceans of confusion and scale mountains of
trepidation to realize their worth. Kids belonging to this category shouldn't
be singled out; instead, they need to be identified out and as nurturing
guardians, adults must play by the cards that are suitable to their needs of
dissimilarites and this involves a high degree of action caution and discretion
as well as verbal censorship.
As for parents, don't
bring work stress home. Leave it at the doorstep just as you slip out from your
footwear and pick it up the next time you leave for work. As for the
uncomplacency at home or your spouse, don't take out pent up anger on your
kids. Temper and ascerbity needs heaps of controlling and only then you can
take your children into control. Castigating kids at will is regrettable; you
will be chock-a-block with remorse at upcoming times. Don't let our future
legacy make a heart-sinking, painful journey through all round avoidable
disdain, morbidity n humiliation.
Kids nowadays have
much more brilliance, advancement and natural programming, owing to vast mass
media access and due exposure. Parenthood is a test of character and in this
era, even more so. There is no single, perfect formulation concerning child
upbringing but physical and ill-spoken punnitive methods are definitely
verified as no nos. Enjoy life's simple pleasures with your brood and teach
them to find good things in bad things and the value of virtues. Children
mirror their raisers so set a praiseworthy example; it doesn't have to be a
paragon. Encourage children to explore their creativity and don't be stingy at
forwarding words of laud to their teensiest accomplishments and you'll witness
miracles unfold from them. You'll be awed