Lately, Facebook pages which highlight Malaysian Indian girls based heavily on their scant dressing sense have mushroomed in full view for the Indian masses here.
Such pages' admins justify that they are teaching a lesson on how to dress and behave to these girls while calling them sluts, bitches, whores, etc. In the lame pretext of moral policing the girls, those who operate the pages allow vulgar comments and the soliciting of the mobile numbers from fans of the girls featured on such pages. And, they call this 'educating' vandis and playgirls and those girls who reveal their body publicly in Facebook.
And then there are girls who provide a surplus of material for these sick minds to prey on.
In case you are wondering what 'vandi' means, it means a ride, pinpointing girls that random guys can screw.
Not a pretty term, I know.
The people who comment against such pages, me included will be bombarded with pure profanity by the admin..
It is astounding how much profanity I have to undergo in order to knock some sense into all those admins operating pages that demean Malaysian Indian girls. Perhaps they hold a doctorate for cussing.
For those girls who upload pics of them in revealing clothes and bath towels why are you doing what you are doing? Have some discretion and express yourself and worthiness by your intelligence and wit and not by your capability of dressing and posing like Shakeela or Mallika Sherawat. They get paid to reveal their physique and you do it gratuitously. Why??
I can take wild guesses WHY.
You think, (I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are innocent and unassuming of the bad, bad world out there) that showing off such revealing pictures of yours to get some likes. Well, honey, there is more to life than likes on Facebook.
And, another one, attention seeking at all the wrong ends and means. If a guy comments, "Hot and sexy" on your photo of you wearing little cloth, you will like it and the message you give to the guy is that yes, you are indeed a vandi and he will take every chance to screw you.
You will happily lap up all the attention but the moment you find out that your pics have been featured on such pages, you will go, "Aiyo, amma, saami, kaapatunggeh." and rush to salvage what little dignity you have left.
Well, my friends and I are trying to fight for your dignity here because we are women just like you.
Of course you have the freedom to dress and upload your photos as you like but as you go about it, you should take all the precautions necessary so that your photos don't fall into the wrong hands. Your body is your temple and your responsibility.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt for your apparent lack of understanding on online media security and your frivolity in adding friends also contribute for the misuse of your photos and they end up in such pages by the doing of your 'friends'. Leave such pages, your so called friends might have saved your pics in their PCs and circulate them in porn sites.
If you have the fetish to upload scantily clad photos of yours on Facebook, set the privacy appropriately. Facebook has given you that choice. If you choose for your photo to be viewed publicly, face both the positive and negative consequences that comes with your choice.
Before you jump at me that I'm outdated and irrelevant to present times and even pattikadu while you girls are civilized, know that being civilized also means knowing that uncivilized people live among us and in order for them not to show their incivility, you should be discreet in whatever you do especially your activities in Facebook and other social networks in order to stay safe.
Trouble comes to women in many faces. It is wise to not invite more trouble online because we already have ample trouble in real life.
Such pages' admins justify that they are teaching a lesson on how to dress and behave to these girls while calling them sluts, bitches, whores, etc. In the lame pretext of moral policing the girls, those who operate the pages allow vulgar comments and the soliciting of the mobile numbers from fans of the girls featured on such pages. And, they call this 'educating' vandis and playgirls and those girls who reveal their body publicly in Facebook.
And then there are girls who provide a surplus of material for these sick minds to prey on.
In case you are wondering what 'vandi' means, it means a ride, pinpointing girls that random guys can screw.
Not a pretty term, I know.
The people who comment against such pages, me included will be bombarded with pure profanity by the admin..
It is astounding how much profanity I have to undergo in order to knock some sense into all those admins operating pages that demean Malaysian Indian girls. Perhaps they hold a doctorate for cussing.
I can take wild guesses WHY.
You think, (I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are innocent and unassuming of the bad, bad world out there) that showing off such revealing pictures of yours to get some likes. Well, honey, there is more to life than likes on Facebook.
And, another one, attention seeking at all the wrong ends and means. If a guy comments, "Hot and sexy" on your photo of you wearing little cloth, you will like it and the message you give to the guy is that yes, you are indeed a vandi and he will take every chance to screw you.
You will happily lap up all the attention but the moment you find out that your pics have been featured on such pages, you will go, "Aiyo, amma, saami, kaapatunggeh." and rush to salvage what little dignity you have left.
Well, my friends and I are trying to fight for your dignity here because we are women just like you.
Of course you have the freedom to dress and upload your photos as you like but as you go about it, you should take all the precautions necessary so that your photos don't fall into the wrong hands. Your body is your temple and your responsibility.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt for your apparent lack of understanding on online media security and your frivolity in adding friends also contribute for the misuse of your photos and they end up in such pages by the doing of your 'friends'. Leave such pages, your so called friends might have saved your pics in their PCs and circulate them in porn sites.
If you have the fetish to upload scantily clad photos of yours on Facebook, set the privacy appropriately. Facebook has given you that choice. If you choose for your photo to be viewed publicly, face both the positive and negative consequences that comes with your choice.
Before you jump at me that I'm outdated and irrelevant to present times and even pattikadu while you girls are civilized, know that being civilized also means knowing that uncivilized people live among us and in order for them not to show their incivility, you should be discreet in whatever you do especially your activities in Facebook and other social networks in order to stay safe.
Trouble comes to women in many faces. It is wise to not invite more trouble online because we already have ample trouble in real life.
Nalle practical karethe... Wait for all these women rights activists to come.. Freedom la managatti la
ReplyDeleteWomen do have the freedom to dress as they like. Edam, porul, yeval must be applied. If an Indian girl wears a miniskirt and tank top and walk the streets of Singapore at midnight no harm will befall her. It is otherwise in India.
DeleteAnother page blaming the women for what is blatant online sexual harassment. These perverts feature pictures of girls in anything they deem what Indian females should not wear.
ReplyDelete1. Women in bikinis by the beach
2. Women in low cut/short dresses clubbing/pubbing or whatever
3. Women in shorts/tanks or anything else that shows a little bit of leg or cleavage.
What sickens me most is this idiotic mindset that seems to plague the Indian community here in Malaysia. If a woman so happens to choose to wear a bikini to the beach, take pictures and then uploads in on her page *blasphemy*, then she is therefore a slut who is just waiting for the next guy to screw. Yeah, it's all the fault of the woman.
Instead of teaching those uneducated louts that dressing in bikinis, shorts, short skirts, tank tops and halter tops is NOT an open invitation for sexual harassment, we choose to harp on women and preach to them about how they should dress or conduct themselves. *yeah cos shorts are so sexy right?*
Might as well stone the rape victim and let the rapist walk free right? But you know whats really funny, if a woman of some other race is dressed in exactly the same way, these perverts would then change their tone saying how good she looks. So please get over yourselves, its not enough that we have uneducated morons within the community who don't have proper jobs and resort to crime, we have seemingly educated ones spewing more bigoted bullshit.
However a woman dresses (if at all) should not be misconstrued as a sexual invitation. Get that straight.
Ruby, if you perused my article properly, I have mentioned that girls have the freedom to dress as they like and upload as they like on Facebook. It is indeed their business, not others.
DeleteAgain, if you read properly, I was always giving the girls alibi, assuming that they don't know the dangers that come with apathy when social networking and then get caught in a tangle and then regret later.
Did you read my screen shot comment? If you didn't or purposely ignored it, I suggest you open your eyes wide and read it and then come to the conclusion that whose side I'm on.
I am a girl as well and I never upload my full photos in Facebook because I know there are sickos out there who might misuse my photos.
I am talking solely about Facebook activities but you digress and go on to talk about rape and so forth.
Since you opened a new fray, let me go about your initiation.
Yes, I agree with you that if a woman of other races dress scantily, it barely raises an eyebrow but the minute an Indian girl dresses in the same way, she would be estimated as a slut which is of course totally wrong.
And then there is another double standard. If Indian couples take bridal pics which shows cleavage and bare backs, it is also accepted. No hungama but if an unmarried Indian girl exposes some skin, it would be subject to censure and the perception that she is not a good girl will set in.
Of course we have to drill into males not to rape and that skimpy clothes on women is not an invitation to rape. Even children and burqa clad women are raped. This fact extends to the fact that dress sense doesn't encourage rape; it is the sick minds that drives rape; all they want is a vagina to pound.
But, we live in a patriarchal society and society can't be changed overnight. It takes time. Women are always perceived inferior to men. Women are told not to be bold like boys and boys are told not to cry like girls. This is the root that we should attack and arrest and we should start it with our brothers, sons and male friends. Even if a female walks naked in public, there is no any males right to touch even her pinky finger without her consent. Lets teach our sons that value. Remember that Rome was not built in a day. Great things take time and entrenched patriarchal qualities take time to defuse.
This is not bigoted bullshit by a seemingly educated individual. (me) Ruby, it is the understanding that uncivilized people, like you mentioned, uneducated morons who don't have proper jobs and resort to crime also live in our civilized world, walking amongst us. We know that snatch theft is rife so we avoid wearing gold jewellery outside. We know that our homes are vulnerable for robbery so we set alarm systems to curb it. We know that we might drown while swimming so we use a float. Likewise.
At least discretion application in dressing for the time being until our external environment is totally safe for women and nonjudgemental of women and their choice of dress sense.
DeleteA good write up..... Dressing with limited cloths and posting in FB for just getting attention??? Hmmm.. i wonder what are their parents doing??
ReplyDeleteAnyway Bro SK Dhurai ....what happen to ur fb and rageindian blog....
any1 knows what happen to SK Dhurai's page???
I too wonder wat happen to this SK???
Delete:-)
ReplyDeletehi
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