Sex education timely more than ever


In regards to introducing guidelines to identify LGBTs by the Education Ministry, perhaps the question of teaching sex education in secondary school is never as opportune as now. The LGBT weeding out guidelines are preposterous. They don’t contain an ounce of scientific fact. All of it is myopic and high on stereotyping and generalising which makes it highly unreliable, not to mention sadistic and discriminative.

In my opinion, adolescents would greatly benefit from sex education backed with scientific facts and a moral code. While scientific facts are dependable, informative and direct, moral code is where manipulation takes center stage.

The moral code, instead of expounding that homosexuality is culturally and religiously wrong, make our kids understand that homosexuality is neither a choice of an individual nor it’s a disease. It is an equal to heterosexuality. It is really as simple as that. And, there is nothing to worry for one to befriend homosexuals.

They have the opposite sexual orientation to heterosexuals and are just as human as you and I and have the right to make their own decisions. They are far, far, far better than rapists, molesters and paedophilles. It is even wrong to compare LGBTs to sexual offenders but I’m pushed to do it to put my point across.

The rise of baby dumping, teen pregnancy and kids being sexually active calls for much more concern from the education ministry than identifying homosexuals. One thing that boggles me is, after a child, somehow, is succesfully identified as homosexual, what happens next? Counselling? Caning? Will it help the child? So many questions arise in its wake.

Pubescent kids are indulging in sex not because they are knowledgable about sex but rather the lack of correct knowledge about sex.

I daresay all parents will be in a state of denial once they learn that their child is sexually active and God forbid, homosexual, with the latter arousing more hungama and controversy when the problem lies with the former which is a social ill. Yes, you heard me, teen promiscuity, pre-marital and underage sex come under the category of social ills. Homosexuality is NOT a social ill.

Properly put sex education would actually make adolescents sexually abstinent and chaste and curb the problem of teen pregnancy, infanticide and baby dumping. Learning that homosexuality is actually caused by a combination of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences as well as the acquirement of the knowledge of the spread of sexually transmitted disease through unsafe sex, with AIDS being the biggest risk would make our youngsters more aware about sex and its consequences and promote the true and correct understanding of homosexuality.

Many of our teens these days are only shy-shy at home. Once outside, they couple up or triple up and indulge in coitus including blowjob and ice-creaming. I’m calling a spade a spade here, holding euphemism back. With the advent of Internet, porn is just a click away. No amount of parental control will restrain those raging hormones and some teens would get morbidly addicted to porn.

And, the more parents scold and shun their kids’ questions pertinent to birds and bees, the more the desire to know about sex develops and this is where the line between righteous knowledge about sex and ill-information about it gets blurred and most teenagers would take only the erotic and kinky details about sex onboard and later on, experiment.

The experimenting kids whose guidance is porn, have no idea of STDs, contraception and that they could end up being Mommy and Daddy by the time they finish secondary school! And, many pregnant teens don’t know they are pregnant until labour kicks in! Likewise with parents and teachers blissfully unaware that their offspring and students are sexually active and pregnant. And, don’t forget the stigma on LGBTs and the heartbreaking, sadistic name-calling meted at them just because of their sexual orientation.

All of these stem from ignorance and misinformation. While it is true that we can’t monitor our kids’ activities all the time, because we have to free them from our hands one day and let them make their own decisions. What we can do is make it known to them of the consequences of unprotected sex and the risk and danger of having multiple sexual partners, that even with contraceptives and protection, one can contract STDs and get pregnant and the truth about homosexuality.

I stress again that scientific and factual knowledge about sex via sex education in school, would actually have a reverse pyschological effect, whereby adolescents, being aware of the implications of promiscuity and unprotected sex as well as the information that even having sex with protection, there are chances which will change their entire lives adversely refraining from being indulgent in sex.

Stop eyeing sex as taboo topic to discuss. Sex played a crucial part in evolution and we owe the biodiversity of Planet Earth to sex. If it wasn’t for sex, you and I won’t be here. Look at the bigger picture. Sex is critical for the continuation of life and species but it should be done with discretion and having the correct knowledge and intention and we must make it known to our children.

As for homosexuality, it is an equal to heterosexuality. There is nothing wrong with LGBTs. Nature made them the way they are. Culture and religion should not dictate who one is and who one should love. There is no need not to acknowledge them; just don’t bully them. For those who have a problem with homosexuals, the problem is not with them. The problem is with you. I rest my case.

Are guidelines to identify homosexuals necessary?

Monday, September 17, 2012 3:16 PM

I am infuriated over the ridiculously put together tell tale signs of detecting homosexuality in school children; it is nothing but pure hogwash, not to mention the guidelines being equivocal and anything but foolproof and surefire. I am sure many Malaysians agree with me and as outraged as I am. Some, still, think of it as a bad joke and others are clamouring that this is against human rights.
The guidelines to detect homosexuals issued, published and now, a step away from implementation range from the concerned structure of their body, their preferred attire and their preferred human company. The popularly punctuated trait of gays having effeminate mannerism and behaviour are not listed maybe because they are obvious.
If a male maintains a muscular body for health and have the penchant to show off his hot body by wearing body fit, V neck and sleeveless shirts and if his favourite colour for clothing happens to be light hues, enjoys the company of men and sports big bags, he can be confirmed as gay.
So, the warning goes to boys, do not maintain a fit body, never wear the aforementioned garb and don't hang out with guy friends because if you do, you'll be deemed gay.
There are even guidelines to identify lesbians on the bordering of not showing affection to men, likes to sleep with women and almost always in the company of women. So, if I hang out with my girlfriends and sleep on the same bed with my mother, sister, aunt, cousin sisters or a female friend who stays over, I'm lesbian huh? And, if I have a stormy relationship with my father and sibling rivalry with my brother or a fall out with my male classmates, I can be branded as lesbian. And, while you are at it, how about coming up with guidelines to identify errant students, those students who are falling back in studies, gangsterism and drug abuse in the midst of students, pregnant teens, students in severe needliness and even corrupt politicians and take the necessary steps to curb those problems? That would benefit students and ultimately, the rakyat no? Why you no think?
Besides, after affirming that a kid is indeed homosexual, what next? Informing their parents that they have a homosexual child and dispense the onus to turn their kid around? Telling the kid that he is abnormal and his sexual tendency is a damned, rankled and blasphemous one, one that religion and society frown upon and that, like it or not, you have to change to what is popularly accepted as righteous? Or build a school to turn homosexual kids to heterosexual beings like how we have a school for pregnant teens? How would any of that would give the kid a morale boost and be beneficial and bear a positive effect imbibed by optimism? With these types of approach, the kid's joy sours and, confusion, steeped in anger, soars and the perception that he is a misfit would settle in the kid's conscience.Why do we have to make our children go through this? This is abuse in it's own right, mind you!
Instead of illustrating guidelines to sift out homosexuals in their munchkin stage, the Education Ministry should have come up with a rigorous code to detect children who are being or have been physicall, mentally and sexually abused and suffering silently and those who are underaged and actively engaged in sex.
And, instead of passing a public policy to weed out homosexuals, educate our children on homosexuality, the implications of unsafe sex, which is, having unprotected sex, and having multiple sex partners and pregnancy. I'd like to quote Madame Marie Curie here, "Nothing is to be feared. It is only to be understood." The LGBT issue can be dealt by making pre-teen kids be in the know circle of the birds and bees and why some people are homosexual and the role sexual hormones play in heterosexuality, bisexuality and homosexuality.
Primarily here, school goers learn about sex and asex in Form 3 Science syllabus, in the chapter reproduction. Those teens who go on to take Science Stream in Form 4 and 5 further learn about the concerned topic in Biology and it halts at that. LGBT, the discourage to have pre-marital and underage sex and promiscuity, how to protect oneself from being molested or raped and who to turn to when their chastity gets violated and the grave complications of STDs are not expounded and drilled in schools where kids spend 8 hours in a day, leaving adolescents to assume and make guesses and wonder.
Secondly, the perception that talking about homosexuality sex is hush-hush and taboo must be oliberated. Which one is better? Talking and comprehending the scientific nitty gritty facts and morals about homosexuality and sex to kids by teachers and parents or getting ill-informed by the Internet, porn and peers or the filtering out homosexual slant in our children with the guidelines being fallible? I, for one would rather have my teenage kids coming to me with such queries rather than them getting to know about LGBT and sex with just as blur friends and mis-informed by porn. And, if my son turns out to be gay, I'll be there for him and be his mother and nurture him with tender loving care as well as ensure that he reaches peak potential in life. It won't be easy but I won't give up on him.

The passed LGBT identification in school kids guideline is malicious and pernicious and we are again an international laughing stock. Malaysia is fraught with more pressing issues such as pending electoral reforms, crime rate increase, skyrocketing goods price, sluggish economy and whatnot and our government had to come up with guidelines to draw a distinction between homosexuals and heterosexual in school level since the future of Malaysia is in grave danger because if homosexuality is not nipped in the bud (with the guidelines on how to transform a homosexual into a heterosexual yet to be tabled) Homosexual Apocalypse would hold Malaysia in a hostile grip. What a load of crock. Malaysia Boleh!
And now, let's watch how successfully Malaysia becomes an international stock as effortlessly as could be..

Of butt show and butt search

Wednesday, September 5, 2012 1:42 PM

In regards to the student and other individuals who allegedly stepped and opened his pants in a crouching position on Najib's portrait which caused much brouhaha and the related police hunt for these miscreants, I'd like to pose a question. Where were our men in blue when butt exercises were put on full display in front of Ambiga's house and the other uncouth, defiling of image of Penang Chief Minister LGE? Our police task forces were standing in the sidelines, arms, folded.
But, when Najib's picture got unrespectful treatment, PDRM sprang into action in a heartbeat, forming special teams to nab the doers, whose deeds which perhaps is held as the sins of the highest order, which must be severely penalized by hook or crook. While rapists get off scott free without serving a jail term, several belligerent young men who, in a moment of idiocy, stamp and strip on and at a nation leader get arrested and possibly sentenced to spend some time behind bars. No wonder Malaysia's moniker is Bolehland!
Coming back to the topic, the questions of whether our police force are Najib's personal body guards and image wardens arise in the minds of right thinking Malaysians. While obscene, callous and plainly gross rites are carried out against men and women who have pre-eminence here but being in BN's bad books are condoned, when Najib's portrait gets a barbed treatment, PDRM gets wide awake and launch manhunt in a flash. The average man on the street would be able to understand the partial treatment.
I am not justifying the acts of the overzelous act of the boors wanting to shit and stomp on Najib's photo. Whatever it is, he is our Prime Minister and the post and his datukship command utmost respect. The individuals who acted with plain insolence are nothing short of blackguards, not only they tarnished the Janji Demokrasi rally, they also tarnished Malaysia's name in the international arena. We are indeed, the world's laughing stock because our political scene is plainly profane and undignified which doesn't represent a civillized society be it BN or PR. Our politicians have a lot of brushing and growing up to do in this area. Malaysia is 55, not 5.
Clearly what the fellows did is utterly asinine and purely shameful, a culture that doesn't reflect maturity and decency but what I'm questioning here is why similar action wasn't taken when Ambiga was harassed in front of her home and mock funeral rites were carried out on LGE's picture, with the perpetrators publicly known to having links with BN one way or another? Ain't this fishy smelling? The police reasoned that the burger stall and buttock display were carried out of Ambiga's residence bounds therefore they have no ground to apprehend them. Pray tell, did the chaps, who have now been detained did what they did in Najib's personal residence's veranda? Why you no explain?
And, the questions above births another question. Is PDRM subservient to BN and are they BN's thugs, their call of duty being at BN's interest? Judging by the hindsight and the current status quo, the answer is slanting to the affirmative. Ok, now who must police serve? The people or BN incumbents? The answer is the people, whose tax pays the policemen and policewomen's salary, but it doesn't seem so here, with the clampdown of the 3 peaceful consecutive Bersih rallies and the handling of this recent butt baring and stepping portrait issues.
In reverse psychology perspective, BN, namely Home Minister Hishamuddin Hussein did the people a great favour by shooting BN in the foot yet again, after sequel after sequel of fiascos. If he had made some noise and urged (I'm using the word 'urge' here because police force should be an independent entity which can neither be be 'ordered' nor 'commanded') the police to take swift and stern action on Ambiga and LGE's intimidators, the rakyat might have considered to give BN another 5 year mandate. But, he didn't and his reticence translated to racism, select persecution steeped in vested interest and sexism.
So, Malaysians, I believe I know all of you know all too well what to do in this approaching 13th GE. Thank you.